The term “enabler” is a catch-all for anyone that supports, condones, or catalyzes bad or uncommon behavior to others. The term enabler is usually associated with high-profile substance abuse and addiction. It can also apply to individuals that enable other types of potentially destructive behavior. So how can you answer the question “am I an enabler?”
It first helps to understand what the term enabler means in a clinical and mental health context as well as a social context. Enablers can appear as either a consistent influence on a person’s behavior or within a sudden situation. For example, an enabler at a large house party may encourage strangers and other guests to binge drink for just that evening.
So what does the term really mean? And are you potentially an enabler? Should you be looking for a family therapy program to help?
The Definition of an Enabler
An enabler by the basic dictionary definition is any person that “makes something possible (in general), or a someone that encourages self-destructive behavior in another person.” Basically, an enabler in terms of behavioral context is someone who encourages others to behave badly/irresponsibly/self-destructively.
Enablers tend to think that their viewpoint is the correct one or that another person is flawed in some way, which catalyzes enabling behavior. Enablers are especially dangerous if they are in relationships, friendships, or other associations with individuals that have addiction issues.
Many enablers may not understand some of their key behaviors and traits that lead to enablement of others’ bad behaviors or substance abuse:
Am I An Enabler?
Enablers tend to have personality traits that deflect, blame, or guilt other individuals into using substances or questioning their behavior. A list of enabling traits to look out for include:
- Avoiding conflict in order to keep the peace or lower tension
- Denying the seriousness or magnitude of a loved one’s addiction or substance abuse
- Bottling emotions and believing that any problems in their life with subside with time
- Blaming loved ones consistently for their own problems and criticizing loved ones consistently
- Adopting the basic responsibilities of loved ones struggling with addiction
- Supporting their addicted loved ones financially even though they are a grown adult
- Treating addicted family members or spouses like a child or unequivocally dependent
- Joining in on the problematic activity even though it is hurting their loved ones or themselves
However, the most important trait to identify in an enabler is ignorance. No matter how much addiction or drug abuse is hurting a loved one, an enabler will continue to ignore these problems until it is too late.
Enablement is one of the most dangerous behaviors whenever someone is struggling with drug addiction. Mainly because it allows a person to continue their substance abuse without any repercussions or pushes an addict to keep using.
How to Protect Family Members Struggling with Addiction
Usually, the best course of action to help enablers and addicts alike is to consider family therapy services like the ones offered at Crestview Recovery in Portland, Oregon.
Family therapy services allow enablers and addicts to identify harmful behaviors, coping mechanisms to reduce those behaviors, and tailored treatment options to help build a stable, substance-free lifestyle. If you have asked, “am I an enabler,” please learn more about our support services by calling 866.262.0531.
